Truly Wedding Blog

You have a vision. You have a plan. Right down to the mini quiche with yellow peppers - chosen to match the napkins. But, when it comes to your bridesmaids - the ones who threw your engagement party, bridal shower, and your bachelorette party, bought you separate thoughtful gifts for each occasion, listened for two hours when your fiancé nixed your favorite frosting flavor and your mother-in-law-to-be casually mentioned you don’t need any frosting anyway – those peerless women don’t deserve to be associated with butt-bows. Especially big ones.

You chose your bridesmaids (hopefully) because you love them, and want them to share your big day. Since you love them, you don’t want them to be dreading your wedding with the same fervor they dread karaoke, mom’s 9-grain vegan casserole or, say, the smoking pits of a fiery hell. You want to look good on your wedding day and they want to look good too. Your motive doesn’t even have to be entirely selfless. Everyone is in a better mood when they know they look smashing.

If the wedding spreadsheet section labeled “bridesmaids, what to wear” includes the word “matching”, you may want to consider some revision. What looks good on willowy cousin Bess will only accentuate your sister Melanie’s lack of restraint when it comes to butterscotch cupcakes. Besides, Bess leans toward the Hot Topic aesthetic while Melanie veers toward Ann Taylor. Consider letting them choose their own gowns, maybe in different hues of the same color or with a universally flattering hemline. Rigidity is good when telling tippling Uncle Wesley that he can’t bring his own flask of whiskey to your ceremony. Less so when telling your friends to pony up for pricey dresses. Let them choose something they’ll wear again, and keep your friends past the honeymoon.

And enjoy the sudden halt to references of “flaming hallway of hell” when discussing their walk down the aisle.